Dear Teenage Girl ....

Being Rude is Not Cool!

When you are with all your friends and they are being mean.. you don't have to be!  I know that you may feel guilt-ed or pressured into doing what they are doing; or maybe even scared that if you don't participate they will turn it back on you.  If this is the case... maybe you should think about finding some new friends!  Don't ya think?

I see young people being RUDE all the time, thinking it is cool!  But really it is not!!  One day you are going to wake up grow up and realize that it was uncalled for, senseless, and RUDE behavior!!

This goes out to ALL teenagers (and some adults), but I'm especially talking to the young ladies...

Young ladies aren't supposed to be RUDE of Bullies... be respectful, kind, show others love.. but be able to take care of yourself and always stand for what you believe in!!

I see young girls that have been good friends with someone, get mad and tell secrets or pick on them just because they are mad... Is that really worth someone's feelings?  and they once called someone their friend.. Really!!??  Criticizing or picking on someone because of what they wear, how they look, or a disability the may have.  Does it make them happy that they hurt their feelings?  Really!! Come'on they're Better than that!!!

If you don't like someone, that's your choice!  Avoid them, don't gossip about them, don't add your opinion, and just don't worry about them because they're not apart of your little world.  Unless you're one that likes the DRAMA.. In that case, please get over yourself.  If not.. in 20 years when you are grown and don't have any REAL friends, live with regrets about your rudeness, and are miserable.. you will wish that you had changed your ways or you'll be know as the grumpy old "Grinch" (nicely put) that lives next door.  Do you want that to be you?

If it feels like I am talking to you... LISTEN!!

This world is already filled with so much hate and rudeness, we don't need no more!!

I know for many teenagers these days it is acceptable!  I hope that these things aren't things that you do, but if it PLEASE change your attitude!  

As my momma always tault me ...  "If you can't say nothing NICE, Don't say anything at all!!" 

NO MORE Mr. Nice Guy

I have always been one that keeps to myself, avoids conflict at all costs, and rarely speaks my mind no matter how bad I may want to!  This is me, not sure why!

My sister and husband are TOTAL opposite... they open their mouths before they think!!  Is this a good thing or not??  I think not because they embarrass me all the time doing it!

Me, I have always thought that there is a way to handle things without being loud or getting ugly!

Lately, my husband has been joking with me that I have been around him to long because I am getting my open with speaking my mind when I disagree!   I guess I just got tired of being the nice guy (girl) all the time! Maybe it's just me getting older, I don't know!

Tonight I almost lost it on a 11/12 year old.. she just got under my skin!  I caught myself counting to 10 in my head to keep from being really ugly to her!  I know, I know.. I just said there is a better way to handle things without being ugly!

I wouldn't want another adult being ugly to my child; therefore, I tried my best to be firm BUT get my point across!!

Her and my youngest daughter are friends and she has different rules at her house.. she gets away with a lot more than I would ever allow mine to, but that's beside the point!

She got mad at my daughter and decided to start sending her Facebook chat messages that were not very nice.  I was in the bath at the time and my daughter came in crying and asked if she was a bad friend.  I said "No, why?"  This is when she went on to tell me what was happening and I told her not to respond and to ignore her.  Easier said than done, even I know this; because I was boiling... I won't lie!

After I got out of the bath my oldest told me that she had messaged her and told her to leave her sister alone.  (Big Smile) It's always nice to see that she is taking up for her, but I told her not to be ugly or anything because that wouldn't fix anything!

I logged onto Facebook to see what was going on... and that is when I saw it!!  She had posted an ugly message on my daughters wall!!! OMGosh I wanted to go off!!!  This is so uncalled for!!  So, I kindly replied to the post telling her not to ever post anything on her wall again... in ALL CAPS!! This Mama-Bear wanted to go for blood!  (lol)  I guess it worked because she removed the post before I could edit or reply again.

It is so hard to stay out of things when it involves my kids!

Instead of sending a message to her phone telling her as nicely as I could to knock it off (all the private messages calling her names and being mean) I decided to send a message to her mom instead asking her to handle it.  I think that was best, but I wonder if anything was even said, but hoping it was.

Here's the thing... I believe that if you are a friend you don't treat other friends this way!  Calling her ugly and saying hateful things isn't being a friend!!!  ((Just my opinion))

I know kids that are about to enter Middle School are this way, flip-flopping back and forth, one minute they're friends and the next they are not... BUT it doesn't make it any easier being the mom!  I don't want to choose her friends, BUT I will NOT allow her to hang with people who are going to treat her this way!

I wasn't ugly, even though I really wanted to be, but I let her know that this was unacceptable and it wouldn't be tolerated! This is exactly what I would have wanted her parent to do if my child was doing what she was.

Regardless of the situation, I don't think posting ugly messages on a friends wall when your upset or not getting along with them is uncalled-for (again, just my opinion), and as a parent I will block their friends who don't understand that!!

SO... I wanna know

1. Am I over-reacting??
2. What would you have done in this situation?
3. Do you think I was in the wrong?  Should I have just stayed out of it?
4. What kind of person are you.. Do you speak before you think?  (or)  Do you not react unless you've been pushed way-to-far?

.... Let me know what you think!!

Insecurities are Our Weaknesses

Last night I was playing poker on an app on my tablet, and it was like no other time. I have played with rude players before, but never one that was trying to be hurtful emotionally.

When I sat down at the table he was calling some people "donkeys" for some reason, then calling me one as I won a hand against him, but I ignored it. As time went on there was a hand that I said " why did I fold" and he had a ignorant response that I once again ignored.

He started going all in on his turn EVERY hand, which is pretty annoying!! So, one hand I called him with not-so-good cards... And won BIG (lol). It was sweet!! Lol

Well, he was pissed and said... "F U you FAT B****!"

.... Being me, I took this really personal!!

Why do people feel the need to try and hurt someone else's feelings?  Does that really do something for them!?

Anyways, my husband was sitting at the table as well, and needless to say he said what he wanted to say!  Not right!  BUt it was nice to know he had my back  (((Big smile))).

He tells me all the time that I should not care so much about what people think or even say.  But it's hard, especially when its with friends/family/people I come into physical contact.

The dude on the game couldn't know I were fat because all he can see is a face which is hard to tell ((lol)), but because it is one of my insecurities, it touched that spot! 

Insecurities are our weaknesses... Things that we are so self-conscious about; and when someone brings-up anything similar to the subject, we think it's about us!  Sometimes it is, but a lot of the time is isn't!

I really need to work on this myself!  I am so self-conscious and it affects me in ways that I never knew.  BUT it is something that I am working on! :)

The guy last night just caught me off-guard.. So Rude!!  I just blocked him so that I don't see anything he says.  Best way not to expose myself to his stupidity!!

I know we all have our insecurities, but PLEASE don't let them become a know weakness to others.  This only allows the cruelties of this world to affect you in ways that are not healthy.

I'm guilty of this, I know!  I'm sure we all are at one time in our lives, but don't allow them to reflect who we are.

Find out what your insecurities are and work on them, one at a time!!  Believe in Yourself, you can do anything you set your mind to doing.. If you truly set your mind to it!!

Hope you all have a great day!!