Dear Teenage Girl ....

Being Rude is Not Cool!

When you are with all your friends and they are being mean.. you don't have to be!  I know that you may feel guilt-ed or pressured into doing what they are doing; or maybe even scared that if you don't participate they will turn it back on you.  If this is the case... maybe you should think about finding some new friends!  Don't ya think?

I see young people being RUDE all the time, thinking it is cool!  But really it is not!!  One day you are going to wake up grow up and realize that it was uncalled for, senseless, and RUDE behavior!!

This goes out to ALL teenagers (and some adults), but I'm especially talking to the young ladies...

Young ladies aren't supposed to be RUDE of Bullies... be respectful, kind, show others love.. but be able to take care of yourself and always stand for what you believe in!!

I see young girls that have been good friends with someone, get mad and tell secrets or pick on them just because they are mad... Is that really worth someone's feelings?  and they once called someone their friend.. Really!!??  Criticizing or picking on someone because of what they wear, how they look, or a disability the may have.  Does it make them happy that they hurt their feelings?  Really!! Come'on they're Better than that!!!

If you don't like someone, that's your choice!  Avoid them, don't gossip about them, don't add your opinion, and just don't worry about them because they're not apart of your little world.  Unless you're one that likes the DRAMA.. In that case, please get over yourself.  If not.. in 20 years when you are grown and don't have any REAL friends, live with regrets about your rudeness, and are miserable.. you will wish that you had changed your ways or you'll be know as the grumpy old "Grinch" (nicely put) that lives next door.  Do you want that to be you?

If it feels like I am talking to you... LISTEN!!

This world is already filled with so much hate and rudeness, we don't need no more!!

I know for many teenagers these days it is acceptable!  I hope that these things aren't things that you do, but if it PLEASE change your attitude!  

As my momma always tault me ...  "If you can't say nothing NICE, Don't say anything at all!!" 

Letting Go

I am feeling slightly hostile today and appreciative at the same time. Is that even possible? The emotions that I feel some days are winding down and they are not all over the place anymore. The only time they are like a roller coaster is when I have some sort of "drama" with certain people.

It occurred to me yesterday that there are some people in the world who are always going to think that somebody somewhere owes them something. They are always right and the rest of us have no idea what the hell we are talking about or doing. You cannot converse with people that have this mindset, because your words and actions will always be twisted to suit their needs or their vision of who and what you are. 

Then there are people that cry or tear up when somebody somewhere does something nice for them because they are so used to being treated like shit. Or when someone compliments them on their appearance or even if they are just nice it comes as a shock. That person has to dig deep to believe in the hope that there are still nice people in the world. 

I spoke to my first ex-husband yesterday. He told me that I really was a good woman and that he was sorry for what he did to me all those years ago. He said he was in a bad place but he has his life back on track now, he is married to woman that he loves and all is right in his world. I also like the woman he is married to because she loves our son and that is enough for me. Maybe one day, the second ex-husband will be gracious enough to say he is sorry for all the pain he has caused but in my heart I doubt it. 

I hate this. I hate that now as of July 7, 2015 this will be my second divorce. Twice in a lifetime I have loved and been given the boot. LOL! At this point in my life, I never want to get married again. I don't want to live with anybody either. I'm happy just having a friend that I can hang out with sometimes. I have to tell myself everyday that I cannot, I repeat, I cannot hold what other men have done to me against the next man. 

I am not perfect. I have done wrong also, but I didn't deserve the blatant disrespect. I never hung out in the club, the street or anywhere. I worked, I came home, I took care of the house and kids and the husband. My worst crime was yelling and complaining about how I needed help. Then I would get that bitch mentality and assume everybody's role because if I wanted it to get done I figured I should do it all myself. That's where I hurt myself, the marriage, all of it. In my next life I am going to be a really prissy girl damn it! 

I am saying all of these things to unload it off my chest, to write it all down, because somehow it helps cleanse my soul of all the negativity and anger. Somehow it all really does remind me of that song by Coldplay......"When she was just girl, she expected the world, but it flew away from her reach, and the bullets catch in her teeth, life goes on it gets so heavy, the wheel breaks the butterfly, every tear a waterfall, In the night the stormy night, she'll close her eyes, in the night the stormy night away she'd fly and dream of para, para, paradise".............................